Thanks for making my final project actually interesting and for helping me get a great grade, BioWare!
Special mention to the 'Cassandra is too butch!' and 'don't BioWare even CARE about their MAIN audience anymore?!' commentators, couldn't have done it without you 
I think videogames should, indeed, serve people's fantasies. So "Cassandra is too butch" is a valid statement. As are all complaints from feminists, from the lightest to the heaviest. The solution is simple, to have all kinds of people making games. There should be black lesbian protagonists and also blond bimbo sex object protagonists. And also manly men, feminine men, straight men, gay men, fat men, bissexual men, agender men, and also manly women, feminine women, straight women, lesbian women, transexual women... and so on.
Regarding DAI and gender, it is a disappointment. Not because Cassandra is or it not too butch, but because everybody have the same body and clothing are still gender-differentiated so all men have broader shoulder, only women have beautiful clothing (well, not even women, but they got the littl amount of pretty clothing we have) and the game world itself still have very classic female roles. Like in GoT we have Brienne and stuff but all in all it is like 1% better than "real world" state. Women are still women, and men are still men, nothing really new.
But, well, that's all we get... Bioware is probably the best thing out there and a little "transgression" is better than nothing I guess