I'll have to start saying that when ppl roll their eyes at my love of video games, 'at least I'm not using crack!'
Exactly!
Much healthier than other options, and does much less long-term damage to you 
Also, I never really understood people who roll their eyes at liking games. Or, maybe I do. I mean, it seems like those people don't really know what they are, because they think of the games they heard of in their childhood/life, like Mario etc. Very simple "time-wasters". Something fun to do when you're bored.
But games are so much more now, they're immersive, they're worth investing yourself into. They can have amazing stories to experience. Do these people not like books, or movies? If they do, then they shouldn't think games are dumb, because they're just another medium. And a more immersive one, and therefore my favourite.
Not to mention the fact that they are great mental training. And I don't just mean puzzles and things, but those as well. Because anything involving some kind of strategy and tactics is just an invisible puzzle. It's great for problem solving, great for hand-eye coordination, and so many other things. I'm sure my piano playing is better because of gaming and vice versa!
And no, they don't make people violent
If anything, it's the opposite, because it's another form of stress-relief.
So there, I went on about games being great longer than I planned to 
Well, I guess it's time to say this.
I bought DAI on January 1st, 2015. On January 7th, my husband moved out and we were separated for a few months. During that time I just poured myself into DAI in a way that I never have with a game before. My first playthrough I was a human knight enchanter that romanced Cullen, and it really hit me how my husband used to be more like Cullen and maybe that's why I was attracted to him out of all the other LI's first. For some reason, just being the Inquisitor was a welcome distraction than facing the world with a marriage in turmoil. DAI and my toddler daughter were all that mattered during those few months, my work quality suffered significantly, but dammit, all my potions were upgraded.
Thankfully, my husband and I rekindled our relationship, went to counseling, and we've even tried to have a second child (but I miscarried) since then. Funny story, my miscarriage is what brought me to BSN. I was so distraught that I was looking for a fun outlet, and I decided to become a member here.
So, DAI and BSN mean a lot to me, no matter how much people bash DAI, I still love it because it was definitely my friend when I needed one. No matter how many noob trolls post in these forums, it's still a safe place to me.
Allright, here's a funny gif so you guys don't think I'm a giant mushy-pants.
Wow, I'm sorry you had to go through all that!
I'm glad you seem to be doing better now though! Here's a Cullen+Inquisitor hug to make you feel better.

I do think I understand in a general sense where you're coming from though. I've used games as a refuge and definitely understand escaping by being someone else for a bit. I'm sorry about your miscarriage, but at least something good came of it, I guess. Another funny story about the BSN: After ME3 came out, I kind of got sent into a depression because of how invested I was in the series and characters, as well as other things I was going through at the time. Soon, I joined the BSN to try to make sense of the ending and just know I wasn't alone in it all, and eventually met my girlfriend because of that. So the games and forums mean a lot to me too ![=]](https://lvlt.forum.bioware.com/public/style_emoticons/default/sideways.png)
Also, it's okay to be mushy, we're all people with feelings and it's probably healthier to let them out than bottle them up, trust me.