but you can keep your sibling alive even if you side against them in the end chapter, so there's no real decision that needs to be made surrounding those characters.
Did you know that at the time the decision was made? I honestly don't remember.
It's been a very long time since I've played the game, but I remember thinking that Bethany would be killed if I allowed the annulment to proceed.
I would also say that Meredith and Orsino better represented the two sides of the major conflict because they're both always present and actively conflicting with each other in the game.
I don't remember having much contact with them until later in the game. Did we even meet them in the first act? Early on, we're dealing with mages versus templars in our own family dynamics.
Even if your example you're noting my choice is "slaughtering the sibling" but what if we removed that? Keep everything else the exact same but say that Bethany/Carver aren't your sister or brother.
How much would you care about siding with the mages against Carver then?
If they aren't siblings, what is Hawke's relationship to them?
It's fine to have a sibling in a game, but the main reason to care about what happens to them shouldn't be "because they're my sibling" which is how I felt about Bethany and Carver.
I agree.
I think Hawke was written to care about and be loyal to family. Again, it's been awhile - but IIRC, Hawke had been fighting at Ostagar, and then rushed home to rescue the family from the darkspawn at Lothering. Hawke had a background of harboring 2 apostates because family, and starts out in a friendship with Bethany and rivalry with Carver. When you learn the difficulty of getting into Kirkwall, you don't try to go elsewhere because family. Uncle Gamlen makes arrangements to get you in and houses you for the first act. When you come back wealthy from the deep roads expedition, you buy the family mansion and take care of mom. All of these are things the game decides for you.
It sort of reminds me of the way that Anderson and Shepard were written as Anderson being a father figure and mentor to Shepard. Some people want to deny that relationship, but that's how the characters were written.
So - it'll be interesting to see what the writers do with the Ryder family dynamics. I'm intrigued by the possibility, because I think it can lead to some great content if handled properly.