Haha, I got to the end of reading this thread and almost forgot what the original post was about.

Personally I
don't want the "dark elements" of prejudice in a game, or to be heavy-handed -- particularly in the likes of DA and ME where one is a fantasy and one is futuristic. Lingering reminders about sexism and homophobia do not make the game immersive or real for me, it just reminds me how much the real world sucks. It makes me wonder why even in a fantasy where women are "considered" to be "mostly" equal they still aren't equal. Or why so far into the future people still give a damn about gender/sexuality. Culture clash will bring about racial issues, so perhaps that to more of an extent is unavoidable.
But, I understand that
seeing can be different than reading. I'm a visual learner by all means, but when I read snippets in DAI, I'm slowly gathering that information and piecing the world together by the perspective of the authors. I'm learning more through individuals rather than the mass consensus of an entire nation. Not saying it's good or bad, just that it worked for me.