Can't someone be both? I don't see why being a gamer and thinking that the world ought to be fixed where it's wrong are incompatible categories.
You can be both but at the same time I think people need to pick their battles better rather than going after every little thing they see as an injustice.
Even looking just at "first world problems", this thread is complaining about what is purely a marketing gimmick.
Marketing is and always will be about what sells the most number of copies. The only reason they'd entertain the idea of using female Ryder as the face of ME:A is because they think it will sell more copies to appear more inclusive.
That's why I say it doesn't matter back on the first page. What we should be focused on is how the characters are represented in game. I'll take a million generic grizzled white guys on the covers of my games if it means we focus on not getting another Krem who exists to be a walking PSA rather than a good character.