You are all acting kind of stupid over this. We really know nothing about how the Qun handles this situation so we use exclusively what we know from the past. In the end, when it comes to the title of the thread, Tamassrans 'pop your cork' regardless of gender/sexuality for safety/productivity reasons as far as we know.
Sex is for procreation. Any urge outside of that must be restrained through discipline.
As far as we know, that is what the Qun really teaches.
The information we have is all we have to go on, true, but when it comes to things like sexuality I think it gets people to wondering how it would all work, especially since Tamassran is a woman's role.
Some males can be Tamassrans.
A gay Qunari man isn't going to be satisfied by that, and neither are straight women. If the whole point is to be satisfied and relieve those sexual urges, then the person's sexuality should be catered to, otherwise they might as well just do it themselves and not go to the Tamassrans in the first place.
Masturbation seems like what the Tamassrans would proscribe under the Qun rather than provide the service themselves or instruct someone else to do it.
Also, Bull's depiction is personally biased, since he himself is bi, so he can be satisfied by just a woman. It would be the same if he were straight. HIS sexual needs are met by the female Tamassrans, and that is what he has experience with. It is not unreasonable for a gay male or straight female Inquisitor to want to ask, "Uh... what if you prefer men?"
Who says there are homosexual Qunari?
The Qun is not "progressive," as far as transexuals goes. The Tamassran attitude seems to be purely practical. They accept and adapt their intended roles for transexuals because they know they will get more out of them this way. Everyone else accepts it because the Tamassrans and the Qun say so.
And why would the Tamassrans go along with the transsexual's self-identification and bend the rules of the Qun when they can simply send them to reeducation and MAKE them think in line with their physical gender?
Sten wasn't looking at your genitals when he declared his amazement that you were a woman, he was looking at your sword arm. Women don't fight, but transexual men who are acknowledged by the Tamasrans and the Qun itself as men no doubt do.... which, I think, is what Iron Bull was trying to explain.
Wrong. He chastises Morrian, Leliana, and Wynne for fighting as well.
Theoretically, a transexual man trained as a warrior would have been greeted by Sten as a man and fellow warrior, because if the Tamassrans say this person is a man, and this person is doing a man's role, and presents as a man, then Sten certainly isn't going to question it. Why would he?
Because, why would your women wish to be men? That makes no sense to Sten.
All of his boxes are ticked. You are the one who insists they must use GENITALS AND ONLY GENITALS to determine gender, when it doesn't always work like that and there's no reason the Tamasrans wouldn't know this.
This is all your speculation. Logic dictates that a Tamassran will recognize a baby based on genitalia and record the new Qunari's existence with that information in his or her serial number.
How do you know what Standards (besides genitalia) the Tamasrans use to identify gender?
My point here was
if the Tamassrans have a standard beyond genitalia, then it defeats the purpose of making the Qun accepting to transsexuals, because any transsexual to go before them will have to fulfill those standards first before being recognized as the gender they perceive themselves to be.
And seriously, a "shield bash?" Not only am I pretty sure Krem can (and has) taken those before, but there are plenty of biological men, fictional and real, I could name who probably couldn't and yet wouldn't be any less men for it. Shields hurt, yo.
And under your theory, the Tamassrans might not consider them men either regardless of what you think of them. There are scenes where Krem has failed to stand up to the Iron Bull's shield bash, earning a rebuke.