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[SKAR]

Damn right i am

*Put his hat, drink a shot of whisky and jump out through a window*

Are you ok? *Grabs first aid kit* nah you're fine. You so DANK!!!!!!!!!

[The Dank Warden]

Are you ok? *Grabs first aid kit* nah you're fine. You so DANK!!!!!!!!!

Yes, now toss me some god-damn gunpowder and a flare, would ya'? this will stop the hemorrage in no time

[SKAR]

Yes, now toss me some god-damn gunpowder and a flare, would ya'? this will stop the hemorrage in no time

yes sir commander sir!

[Seraphim24]

Like I said, I don't mind having hints that the player and their romance try it sometimes, and if people roll that way IRL, more power to you, enjoy yourself. But I felt like the way they handled that kind of romance in DA:I was they threw it in your face constantly that it was a BDSM relationship, even if they didn't go into any detail other that Bull was in charge and he tied the Quizzie up in creative ways. 

 

Don't get me wrong- I LOVED Bull as a romance. He was sweet and kind and considerate and when he finally came around to saying that he loved you, he was openly proud of it- basically his answer to questions about the relationship went like this: "This is my Kadan, and my Kadan is the greatest thing ever and I love her more than anything else in this whole damn world,  because she is my Kadan."

 

But I disliked how even with all of that, the game would constantly throw BDSM at you in pretty much every conversation with him, reminding you that he was in charge in the relationship. Even in party banters when people commented on it, it felt more like they were snickering at the Quizzie's weird fetish than good natured ribbing. I really wish one of them had just said "Look, if you're happy, you don't have to be ashamed about it." Even Varric joked about it while he was trying to reassure the Quizzie, so it didn't come off as the writers probably meant it to to me. I didn't feel that it was presented in such a way as to make it completely mesh. 

 

Anyway, my point is that I don't want another romance like that, where your love for another character is tied directly to (and at times felt like it was defined by) your sex life. That's my main reason for it. I think it would be better if they made it a flirt option where they said things like "Hey, you wanna try me being in charge for the night?" and have the other person reply "Only if you bring cuffs." Stuff like that rather than "I'm in charge all the time, take it or leave it."

 

I totally get where you are coming from, the kind of fully top down sort of style dominance is one thing and that's kind of what IB was, rather than being this kind of emotional sort of connection across time and space and integrated with the larger personal sphere. I find myself kind of drawn to both personalities at times for different reasons, the first is sort of like a short term connection where maybe they just kind of want a quick sort of power trip, whereas the other is likely to be lengthier personal connection. The simple fact is that just about any character on the Normandy was probably a bit kinky, varying both in just how much and how they wished to present that (publicly, privately, etc)

 

So if you were to have Kaidan and all the aspects of his normal relationship but spontaneous involvement of more power playish activity, but not even recognizing it as such I think that would be kind of accurate and cool.

 

If you notice I avoided the term "BDSM" for just this reason I think lumping together everyone in one category is a bit... like some people only care about S&M... some more about B&D... but in no instance are they really required to be a part of each other, you can "identify" as something specific, or you can just be like a regular couple that wants to try X or Y which is crazy common, and completely fine.

 

I think if you did the poll the odds of just regular couples all over the world integrating "power" into sex life you would get like 98% of the world population. Nowadays with 50 Shades it's fair to say perhaps even a majority of lets say couples in America have probably tried some kind of more power oriented activity (physical bondage, etc) but that's just my random guess. 

 

Conversely, people that can be fairly active in integrating those kinds of power activities can have really boring typical normal lives, as like lawyers, doctors... which kind of isn't surprising when you consider how much power fluctuates in lets say the medical profession. 

 

That's why I just said people motivated by like "power" or just kind of power concepts as connected to sexuality I think is broader and more inclusive, and perhaps more accurately reflective of people's desires. 

 

But yeah this thread can just about discussing those elements just as much as anything, I'm not assuming that there is a specific model that needs to be integrated. 

[Seraphim24]

I kind of actually see relationships and power play kind of more obvious things as directly connected, it's part of a natural dynamic that just kinds of this kind of curious expression, but is implicitly or rather expressly related to how we view ourselves, other people, the world, everything. I absolutely would not want to see it reduced into "bring the cuffs" kind of stuff, but at the same time that's kind of the only time it explicitly showed up in a Bio game so I'm not really surprised, or even critical really I mean hey sometimes you just try stuff throw it out there. 

 

They've had tons of commentary and feedback on the LGBT aspects and I think that's probably why you culminated with a character like Dorian that was pretty meaningful for a lot of people. 

[malloc]

E-ro gotta stop making these thre... wait a second