Relband wrote...
Two issues with this interpretation: first, Wynne's too sensible/intelligent for me to lead the conversation into that direction in the general context (return to the scene of defeat and carnage, finding king's body, all the personal stuff about the battle coming back, etc.); I can see her trying to defuse the situation emotionally, but she's too subtle to have to resort to this kind of talk; at a funeral you do not try to cheer up grieving relatives with comments of sexual undertone....
Wynne is used with such exchange with Alistair, I got more than once like that between them out of RTO. It's at level of private joke between them. It's not at all an official ceremonial but right after to have find the Duncan weapons and Alistair saying nothing, clearly because of the emotional shock. She had to do something and come back to their own private joke was a sensible way to go.
Then, although Oghren and Zevran are not too subtle about it either, in exchanges with both of them whenever sexually loaded comments come up, her reactions are unambiguously negative and she's not even trying to put the guys down with well-aimed retorts.
That's totally different context, there's nothing sexual between Wynne and Alistair, not even the beginning of it, and both know it. The whole difference is that there's frienship between Wynne and Alistair and not the beginning of any between Wynne and Zervan or Oghren.
Also from the weird Zevran Wynne can't be sure of anything and from Oghren there's a crude level she doesn't appreciate.