A game, a G-D video game, does not have a gay option and you are being "denied"?
A game which prides itself on the player's ability to make significant choices, including that of a romantic partner, and to craft your character into your own liking. Yes, it denies a significant option from many people.
And it would have been extremely easy for you not to buy the game knowing full well ahead of time that there was never going to be a gay option. Were you "forced" to buy it then come here and complaian?
Had you actually paid some tiny spec of attention to this thread, you would know that I am, in fact a straight male. I wouldn't use the gay option if there was one. However, here's the thing: unlike you, I'm not just thinking about myself. I think that people who are different from me deserve options too. I think that a game that doesn't take into account such a significant option when it does carter to all the others (though F/F is sorely lacking in ME2, as well, despite of getting a lip service) reflects on it badly.
I found the Garrus romance threads utterly silly, but I never went into them to whine how their very existence would ruin my game. And look now, those threads were actually listened to by the devs. They were cartered because they made noise. Hence, these threads follow the suit.
So "gay mindset" for you, indeed. Don't let the door bang you on your way out.