Funkenstein23 wrote...
Okay. Non normative is a phrase I noticed is being tossed around a lot, so it seems I ought to clarify what it means, as I haven't seen it used correctly. Normative means "pertaining to an ideal practice, standard, or model" for example "Don't drink and drive" is normative advice. So saying that homosexuality is non normative is like saying it is not ideal, it is less than the best condition. I dont think thats your intent.
What's your source? When I see it used in psychological journals it's used as a descriptor, not as a value judgement.
Secondly, you are arguing that men and women are not different. Science disagrees. For example women are infinetly more prone to empathy, men are infinetly more prone to bravado.
My husband is more empathic than I am and has less bravado, if we define that as "willingness to give people a piece of my mind".

If you look at any studies of sex differences, you'll see there's always extensive overlap.
By design they would have to be different in order to facilitate family cohesion. A women is capable of both pregnancy and breast-feeding, two acts which produce great amounts of motherly empathy and caring, making her the care-taker of her home.
Except this doesn't always work, and sometimes mothers completely fail to connect with their offspring, while their husbands are very loving.
The father is away from these processes but is connected to his wife. This encourages him to go out, and to win for his family, whether that be hunting in caveman times are working today. These are evolutionary benefits given to men and women. They are indeed different.
While females benefit from resources acquired by male partners, they also bring home their own bacon.