Few87 wrote...
I managed to get the line about tali sying she would like to "join enivornment suits" but was really upset that i couldnt romance her any further. I hope that they carry this through to mass effect 3. By the way I play as the real (female) shepard. 
I highly disapprove of your statement. I hate sexist people. Especially women who are sexist against men.
My point is, Female Shepard is not the "real" Shepard. You have no right to say that and you shouldn't think that way. The real Shepard is YOU. Whoever you are, is real.
It's a little different for me though. For me the real Shepard is the default MaleShep. This is because he's marketed that way, and Bioware stated that that's how they see him. I never make custom Sheps. I play as the Shepard that he is, and only adding bits of my own personality in. So yeah.
One way or another, you can't say that your female Shepard is real. The closest Shepard can get to real is his marketed Gender+Face.