I voted!

TheSweetGirl wrote...
Hey, I wonder if Youtube has the one conversation where Shepard has that "No. I can't replace wife." I always wanted to hear what he had to say to that. I'm getting close to that scene so maybe I can record it =D (I hope it records good. Mine don't but my bro's does...maybe I can use his)
My YouTube-fu has failed me.

I've seen a lot of people say they can't get into Thane's romance because a) he's not over his wife and

he was even married in the first place.
As to the first, his response in that scene pretty much solidifies my feelings on the matter. Irikah will always have a place in his heart, but that doesn't mean there's no room for Shepard or that's she's simply a replacement. If he weren't truly at peace with her death, he wouldn't be afraid of dying, himself. Considering his religious beliefs, I would think he'd be looking forward to rejoining her in the afterlife and would never have "reawakened".
In context, him speaking about his wife is certainly understandable. I would've been turned off had he been rather 'meh' about the whole thing, or if he avoiding talking about her at all.
As for having been married, I can only speak for myself here, but being roughly the same age as Shepard, I can tell you that I would be extremely hesitant to get involved with a 38 year old who's never been in a serious relationship before. While that doesn't neccesarily equate to marriage, it's better than nothing.