All casual flirtations or "flings" were female as well. Let's see.....Sha'ira (the consort) in ME1, Shiala in ME2 (if alive and helping the colonists). And this is not a dig on Kelly fans (for those that fell for perky lil' redhead), but Kelly, Samara (should have been different) and Diane Allers in ME3. All of them female. Why no fine gents to flirt with, or have a fling with?
It was stated resently by Gamble (I think....memory is foggy...too much Nyquil) that this game has a rather large female fan base. I find it hard to believe it has taken them till now to realize that this game has a sizeable female player base. If that is the case, why would they not capitalize on that? I doubt they believe all their female fans are bi or lesbian, though some of them are. But considering how some of the F/F scenes are represented, I'm not sure they had the bi/lesbian community in mind. And what of straight female gamers. Does BW believe that the majority of female fans prefer tragic/angsty or with gut punching doses of reality (I'm lookin' at Jacob's cheating ways...), when it comes to their romance choices? I would guess not, since Garrus is one of the most popular romances. Maybe we should blame some of those YA books/movies/TV shows that are aimed towards the teen to twentysomething year olds. Whether these females really like these bits of entertainment, or the pickings are slim anyway, it hardly represents what all/most/many like or wish for.
They offered us a descent variety in ME2, and they should have stuck by it. Even ME1 with it's limited choices, still felt more balanced. Not every female will choose the same, just like not all males will (and one look at the variety of female LI's available to M!Shep proves the point). I am a married woman in my 40's. Even though I don't look at Shepard as "myself", I do fully admit to choosing Thane because he appeals to "me". Nothing wrong with putting some of your own tastes and preferences on to your avatar. Besides, it can help with immersion if you find yourself caring more for the LI you chose for your PC, than had you simply gone with who might have been better for story/character-wise. I have a few Sheps that worked just fine with Thane as their choice, but because of how I played them, they could have easily fit with other characters:
Evan Shepard - my only Shep to have the love triangle, would have also worked sticking with Kaidan.
Mace Shepard - was played with a lot of similarities to Garrus; he also would have been a good choice.
Cate Shepard - had some complimentary traits for Liara AND Jacob.
(Ulee and Chase from an RP standpoint, were perfect for Thane.....Chase would have been good with some fling action as well; she roles that way. heh!)
The point is, I still chose Thane because I find a connection to him. Me. And he still worked just fine for those PC's. No regrets.....so long as I don't play me3.