SweetiePea wrote...
I'm in my 30s and, though the bad boy never appealed to me, I'm definitely at a point in my life where I want someone more mature and levelheaded. That does not mean that he can't be passionate. I don't see these things as mutually exclusive. If BioWare wrote romanceable males who were jerks and homicidal maniacs, I'd stop playing their games. I couldn't be any less interested in that type of male. I do like a sarcastic sense of humor, though, and I am very entertained by the males who crack wise (Carth and Alistair, for example).
I would have to agree with this 100%. Altough Alistair in DA was a bit too sweet for my tastes at times, he still had some mouth on him which made me smile a few times.
Kaidan might not make an entrance like Grunt but he doesn't have to IMO. Bioware really pulled off his demeanor. His eyes pierce right through the damn camera and even if he holds back most of the time, when he doesn't, I can't help but squirm a little in my chair. Hell I didn't even want to play through the Horizon mission cos' my fiancé was in the same room with me

The thing with bad boys is that they tend to behave the way they do for 2 reasons: Either they've never really cared and act bad because they can. Does Shepard need that? Then of course, since it's Shepard, she will make the bad boy "better". Then there's the whole having rough past and acting out because of that....people like this can change but usually they've been scarred so bad that they simply can't give the type of stability a Paragon Shep might want.
And yes I've ran into a few bad boys during my life...when I was in a bit of a bad-mode myself. Call it an identity crisis if you will. I tried not to care, I tried to be tough and calculating and I drew in people similar to that, those who were like that or pretended to be like that. Most of the time, I only ended up getting hurt. Realizing that these people have never cared for anyone for real and I'm not the one they would start caring about....or then they had emotional scars I couldn't heal, as I had some of my own.
So I really like it that there's a fem Shep LI that doesn't require me to try and predict every "bad ass" action he might take...Kaidan had his issues, but he overcame then and now he practices self control in order to be a better person.
Or at least that's what I think....I'm getting way too deep into this, I just find his character so interesting