Mondo47 wrote...
Marriage...
I'll plead Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell there; there's absolutely no reason whatsoever to get hitched to stay with someone for the long haul, have kids, or do any of the other things society expects of married folk.
In all seriousness, considering Jack's constantly-adrift lifestyle and Shepard's long military career, there's a chance both of them would never really entertain the idea of marriage for a long time - at least until maybe Shep retired for good and Jack was sure that what they had was stable enough. They both understand the transitory nature of life all too well, so I can see them both being rather cynical or ambivalent about it.
Besides, going back to my last musings on the 22nd century, marriage might be considered terribly blase, old-hat or for inter-species relationships completely inappropriate. It could well have been replaced by bonding agreements that work like prenups, procreation contracts more akin to something a salarian would sign up to, state shotgun-weddings (and attendant chemical sterilisation) for breaking birth regulations... endless possibilities for making saying "I do" very different. I can see Shep and Jack just silently, unceremoniously knowing what they were if such a time came. Nothing would change, maybe nothing would be said, they'd just keep on going the way they were.
Though considering that they have friends and coleagues, they might be the ones to feist some kind of civil ceremony on them just to "make it official" and be an excuse for a party... I now have amusing visions of Shep getting dragged on the krogan equivalent of a stag-do (probably the invasion of a small country crossed with a pub crawl) and Jack and Miranda starting an all-out biotic showdown in a bridal shop over the cheerleader's attempts to turn Jack into a dressup doll (while Tali rolls her eyes and drinks all the complementary champagne).
I agree with basically everything you've just said, but I'd like to throw my small town/hick perspective into the mix. As much as I'd like my Shep to do the whole marriage thing, I think sometimes we forget what her life has been like up till now. Samara has the line, "I'm a ruined vessel of sorrow and regret, but I am free," and I think this works well for Jack too. I mean the girl has been in prison's her whole life, whether that be an actual prison or a prison of her own mind, she's just now finally free of all that. I have this image of Jack on Illium or somewhere, at a moment when she is alone, looking up at the sky, pumping her fist, cracking a smile, "I'm free, I'm finally free...... now what."
Marriage even by contemporary standards seems out of the question, just because she need's to do some living for herself, and lot's of it. Maybe when the gap between years of freedom start to close in on all the years she survived without, maybe then she might marry Shep, if he's even in the picture at that point, personally I've always had them pegged as star-crossed lovers.