Sleepy Buddha wrote...
Sorry, but I can only visit the forum on occasion, so it can take a while for me to reply. As I said, I need a smartphone since I'm always going to places with no wifi.
What I mean by empty and meaningless is that I see many people, especially younger generations, constantly saying that to their friends for the most insignificant things, dilluting the meaning of it.
Also, from my experience in relationships and those of people I know, usually it's those that say it the least that feel it the most. A person can say it all they want, if they don't act like it, it's meaningless.
As I said before on this subject, actions speak louder than words, and I feel that showing that feeling somehow, by doing something that demonstrates to the other person how you feel, is much better that saying anything.
Now, I don't know about your case as I don't know you personally. I'm just giving my opinion based on what I've seen and experienced.
I think alot of what you say about the younger people it is exactly because often in fiction it is portrayed as some sort of magical bullet that somehow will make people melt and love you back. Therefore it is a good thing to whip out from your arsenal. Saying 'I love you' in real life is seldom some big dramatic thing and it doesn't really work when used as a manipulation.
I think I understand you...I think you underestimate the power of words. I think it keeps the love on the mind of people and helps it develop to not only do loving things but also say loving things. Withholding that love in order to make it...more real...or whatever makes no sense to me. If you withhold it because you don't want to dilute it, it seems like the far bigger danger would then be forgetting that love since you never vocalize it and express it. I tell my wife I love her almost everyday, because I do with every fiber of my being, and I would be doing that love a great disservice if I did not express it as often as I feel the need to.
But saying 'I love you' is indeed an empty gesture if there is no love present.