SweetiePea wrote...
I hope that when Kaidan is back in ME3 (And he will be back or you will feel my wrath, BioWare!! *shakes fist*) you'll get a chance to have more conversations like this. The more I think about this aspect of his personality, the more attractive he is to me. Self-reflective people are really good at looking at things from a variety of angles and accepting their own responsibility, so this is a huge plus in a man, IMO.
Well said.

I always liked that Kaidan brought a fresh perspective to the table. While my Shep wasn't prejudiced against aliens, I think she never would have learned to become more tolerant based on an alien's crimes or mistakes. Kaidan did. I'm hoping he'll continue to think outside the box and share those thoughts with us in ME3.
SweetiePea wrote...
I don't think Kaidan would like Thane all that much because I do think Kaidan would see this as Thane just rationalizing the bad things he's done. After all, TIM has all kinds of rationalizations for what Cerberus has done, and Kaidan's ain't buying those either, is he?
Hmm, I never thought about it that way before - I mean the comparison between Thane and TIM. Do both regard the ends as justifying the means? If so, then yes, I think Kaidan would "disapprove."

Still, I'm not entirely sure that Thane does regard the end as justifying the means. He is troubled. He's not sure. I think that, for him, the means were his duty... And that, for most of his life, he avoided thinking about the ends. To me, that's not so much rationalising as refusing to attempt to rationalise because one doesn't want to face the conclusions one would reach. We kinda see this with the weak justification Thane comes up with when he does try (himself as a weapon). On reflection, I'm not even sure Thane totally believes it himself.
Compare that with Kaidan... I don't know that Kaidan has actually done that many things he has cause to regret. There's Vyrnnus, but it wasn't really his choice, and he's come to terms with it. Stealing the SR-1 with Shepard? Not at all - he did what he had to do. Following Shepard's orders and going to the escape pods? Maybe, though I imagine he's tried to tell himself that he only would've gotten himself killed too. As a rule, I think Kaidan thinks before he acts, and if there's something he'd have a problem doing, he just doesn't do it. Thankfully, it seems Alliance command doesn't make the same kind of demands upon him that the hanar do of Thane.
All that being said... We don't know a great deal about the targets the hanar gave Thane. Could he be considered part of the hanar military, in a sense? Even if so, I'm not sure Kaidan would ever say "I was just following orders."
Food for thought!