There's a line in Pride and Prejudice where Darcy comments that he was given proper principles, but left to follow them in pride and arrogance. Until Lizzy, of course. One of my Shepards always makes me think of that, as she was taught to do the right thing, save lives, blah blah blah, but she's very cold and calculating about it, w/o much compassion or emotional investment in the people around her. She gets to know them so they're easier to anticipate, not because of any innate friendliness.
She'd never been in danger of cutting corners in the traditional sense, of trying to get to the results w/o considering the consequences, but rather in not taking the emotions of others into account in her calculations. She doesn't need help thinking through things, she needs help feeling things. And Kaidan is a very compassionate individual, so he helps with that.
(For those reading Lost for Words, this is obviously not Ella's problem. Ella is more like legbamel's description, in that Kaidan provides a steadying, calming influence for her temper.)
eta: and yes, being in love changes people, but they can try and change together, so the relationship gets stronger instead of weaker. It all depends on the people involved, and how determined they are to fight for their relationship. Kaidan and Shep are both fighters, so if they wanted to make it work, I'm pretty sure they could. It all depends on how much they want to, in ME3.
Modifié par jillyfae, 07 mai 2010 - 07:54 .