Sable Rhapsody wrote...
Just popping in here to show support for y'all. Though IMO, if they do implement a same-sex option, I'd like it to be more than just a carbon copy of the hetero option. Same-sex relationships are, in their essentials, no different from heterosexual relationships--love, trust, intimacy, companionship are the same in both. But there are different dynamics created by virtue of having different physiological sexes and/or gender identities involved.
I certainly see your point, here, but I personally place my emphasis on
"Same-sex relationships are, in their essentials, no different from heterosexual relationships." I've seen game writers state in interviews that they face a particular challenge when trying to write a character who is "believably gay." Because lesbian/gay/bisexual people are every bit as diverse as the population at large (not unified by any singular cultural background, personality type, or shared ideology) the key in creating a fictional gay person is creating a character who fits in their setting. Come up with a character who fits in Shepard's environment first. Establish that he or she is attracted to people of the same sex. Then you have a character who is believably gay.
When it comes to different dynamics that result from different sex or gender identity, most folk in support of this thread seem to favour a more "masculine" type of same-sex male romantic interest. That concept depends on gender identity, but needn't be overemphasized to be effective.
Personally, I thought DA:O did it reasonably well. Most of the dialogue was the same, with some differences bringing up the same-sex relationship. That's just fine and dandy.
I mostly agree. I rolled my eyes at the barrage of "is it OK with you?" dialogue. My Warden was flattered to be called "handsome" though.
Though I could see just using the heterosexual dialogue with different pronouns for the alien romances, partially because the fact that you're of entirely different species probably matters more than the sex of the partners. Same-sex qualities probably pale in the face of chirality problems, chafing, hallucinations, fluid contamination, and immune system worries 
I've made the same point. It is true that the alien characters are fictional, their alien biology and potentially radically different anatomy are easily dismissed as "atmospheric text" while players react to them more based on the players' own cultural and gender assumptions. I think, nonetheless, that the potential exists to write alien romance as its own unique and transcendant phenomenon. (Remember, too, that to Garrus, Thane or Tali Commander Shepard is also an alien. Liara is a special case since Asari culture actively favors those who bond with people outside of their own species and looks down on Asari/Asari pairings - that itself is kind of amazing, if you think about it.) I quite like the alien romances, conceptually. I cannot believe that the "But you're a guy!" issue is a bigger deal than "But you're a lizard!" or "But you're a fleshy hairy thing!"
Deviating from the topic a bit - has anyone else noticed that Humans are the only sapients with hair? Unless the Quarians or Volus are shaggy under those suits, that is.