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[Statulos]

I´m absolutely partial to Cuba for a huge number of reasons but I will also accept that your options are excelent too.

[Borschtbeet]

AshedMan wrote...

-If they smoke.
-If they were Republican.

I agree.  If I accidentally knock up a republican woman then my chances of talking her into getting an abortion are pretty hopeless.

Modifié par Borschtbeet, 28 février 2010 - 06:34 .

[xxr]

This thread amuses me so I'll add a few of my own deal breakers:
1. Low self-esteem. It's not my job to constantly make him feel "good enough."
2. Disregard for proper decorum. There's a time and a place for everything. Good etiquette and manners will get you everywhere.
3. Social awkwardness. Because I've got enough for the two of us xD

[Seagloom]

Lucy_Glitter wrote...

Dark Lilith wrote...

-smokes
-cruel to animals
-makes crude or demeaning jokes at the expense of someone else

Apart from smoking, definitely agree with this! God damn I hate pretty boys. I couldn't date a guy who rearranged his hair and looked in a mirror more than me.

So generally I think this list comes down to, "Not being a total jackass."

Not being a total jackass. Huh. You know, that *does* sum it up in many ways.

Also animal cruelty and smoking counts for me too. I admit I wasn't thinking of those things specifically while writing my list. Odd considering the former *is* a big deal for me. I'm an animal lover so that's not only a reason not to date someone, but to despise them outright. Smoking is just plain gross.

Amberyl Ravenclaw wrote...
- Sexist / chauvisnistic.
- Lack of empathy.
- Possessive / controlling.
- Lack of boundaries - social, emotional, mental, even physical. I need my space sometimes.

I'll steal some of yours too, if you don't mind. These are a few I missed. The big ones for me are lacking empathy, being possessive, and lacking boundaries. I like to feel loved much as anyone, but I enjoy my freedom too. I don't like it when someone is overly clingy and doesn't let me breathe.

Fexelea wrote...
Love is funny. The person you end up with might as well have half of the many no-nos everyone is listing. Unfortunately we cannot be entirely rational when falling in love, and often many incompatible aspects get balanced out by what we like.

This is true... and I can be flexible if I feel the person is willing to change their behavior. Not that I'll make them change. They have to want it for themselves, which is very rare. Usually it's easier to just break things off ASAP than get into a relationship with someone that will ultimately make me miserable. The good has to be so bright as to blot out the sun otherwise. There are so many people around... so many options... that I don't feel the need to settle for less.

On that note, I'm already smitten with another so in a way it hardly matters.

Modifié par Seagloom, 28 février 2010 - 09:00 .

[Godak]

@Seagloom: Isn't that first quote from Lilith?



Anyway, I think I'm pretty far out of the "pretty boy" realm. Depending on the time of year, and my current hairstyle, I either get by with wetting my hair down, or I do nothing to my hair at all (buzz cut FTW!). I shave my stache, and get on with my day.



Also, Mrs. Ravenclaws "Lack of Boundaries" is soooooooooooo essential. Being a couple doesn't mean that we're one, single entity.

[Dark Lilith]

Godak wrote...

@Seagloom: Isn't that first quote from Lilith?

Anyway, I think I'm pretty far out of the "pretty boy" realm. Depending on the time of year, and my current hairstyle, I either get by with wetting my hair down, or I do nothing to my hair at all (buzz cut FTW!). I shave my stache, and get on with my day.

Also, Mrs. Ravenclaws "Lack of Boundaries" is soooooooooooo essential. Being a couple doesn't mean that we're one, single entity.

it its...who stole my quote...I'll cast an evil spell on him or her!

[Dark Lilith]

Statulos wrote...

I´m absolutely partial to Cuba for a huge number of reasons but I will also accept that your options are excelent too.

there illegal in the states,doesn't mean you still can't get them.I know my dad on occassion had some and I loved the aroma

[Seagloom]

Godak wrote...

@Seagloom: Isn't that first quote from Lilith?

It was. But I screwed up the quote tags while I wrote that post. Had too much going on at the time. Fixing it now...

[Dark Lilith]

Seagloom wrote...

Godak wrote...

@Seagloom: Isn't that first quote from Lilith?

It was. But I screwed up the quote tags while I wrote that post. Had too much going on at the time. Fixing it now...

your forgiven sweetie

[Giant ambush beetle]

Just wanted to mention that some flaws are ok, I mean, a partner without any flaws is no challenge and true love is accepting and living with some flaws of your partner; right?
I guess I just don't like having a life full of perfect rainbows and unicorns everywhere.

Nothing gets me bored quicker than absolute perfection.  
 

Modifié par The Woldan , 28 février 2010 - 09:01 .

[Dark Lilith]

The Woldan wrote...

Just wanted to mention that some flaws are ok, I mean, a partner without any flaws is no challenge and true love is accepting and living with some flaws of your partner; right?
I guess I just don't like having a life full of perfect rainbows and unicorns everywhere.

Nothing gets me bored quicker than absolute perfection.  
 

we all have flaws.plain stupid or uncaring is not a flaw,thats optional

[Giant ambush beetle]

Some special abilities can outweigh even the biggest flaws.  Plain stupid and not caring is no exception.  

[Dark Lilith]

The Woldan wrote...

Some special abilities can outweigh even the biggest flaws.  Plain stupid and not caring is no exception.  

true.I know someone who is just plain stupid,but by birth not by choise! Nicest person in the world.

[Giant ambush beetle]

Dark Lilith wrote...]
true.I know someone who is just plain stupid,but by birth not by choise! Nicest person in the world.

Its all about the mix I guess, as example I am a little bit stupid and a little bit nice.
But I also know people so full of flaws you wouldn't believe it, I have also seen people not having any flaws at all, they really exist. Lifes unfair...

[Seagloom]

The Woldan wrote...
Its all about the mix I guess, as example I am a little bit stupid and a little bit nice.
But I also know people so full of flaws you wouldn't believe it, I have also seen people not having any flaws at all, they really exist. Lifes unfair...

No such thing. Anyone that seems flawless is particularly skilled at presenting themselves well and hiding what those flaws are. Then there's also the possibility that what you consider perfect another finds annoying as all get out.

[Statulos]

Dark Lilith wrote...

Statulos wrote...

I´m absolutely partial to Cuba for a huge number of reasons but I will also accept that your options are excelent too.

there illegal in the states,doesn't mean you still can't get them.I know my dad on occassion had some and I loved the aroma

Like father like daughter... You know what is nice just as your dad. On the other hand, being a coffee lover as you are, you shoud try Cuban one if you can.

[Giant ambush beetle]

Seagloom wrote...
Then there's also the possibility that what you consider perfect another finds annoying as all get out. 

I thought that was obvious right from the start of the thread. 

[Seagloom]

That isn't what your last post implied. But fine.

[Giant ambush beetle]

I always write from MY point of view, sadly, I dont have the abilities to enter other peoples heads to change my POV. Keep that in mind.  

[Sarevok Anchev]

Seagloom wrote...

The Woldan wrote...
Its all about the mix I guess, as example I am a little bit stupid and a little bit nice.
But I also know people so full of flaws you wouldn't believe it, I have also seen people not having any flaws at all, they really exist. Lifes unfair...

No such thing. Anyone that seems flawless is particularly skilled at presenting themselves well and hiding what those flaws are. Then there's also the possibility that what you consider perfect another finds annoying as all get out.

*Writing down Seagloom in the black book*
"...She knows too much...":bandit:

[Dark Lilith]

Statulos wrote...

Dark Lilith wrote...

Statulos wrote...

I´m absolutely partial to Cuba for a huge number of reasons but I will also accept that your options are excelent too.

there illegal in the states,doesn't mean you still can't get them.I know my dad on occassion had some and I loved the aroma

Like father like daughter... You know what is nice just as your dad. On the other hand, being a coffee lover as you are, you shoud try Cuban one if you can.

I'll definately look into that!

[Statulos]

Now that I realize, my previous roomate is Puerto Rican (and many more interesting things...), so she always brought me coffee from the isle.

Except a couple Caribbean coffees that are quite particular (Jamaican Blue Mountain, basicaly), they taste quite similar. I like Cuban one for the simple fact that is quite mellow comparatively but it will taste not too different than Puerto Rican or Jamaican coffee.



If you go for the coffeine kick, nothing like Java.

[Loerwyn]

Can't beat a cup of PG Tips tea with sugar and milk.

I basically live off it.

[Statulos]

Milk is sacred and I don´t touch it.

Now seriously, I have some digestive issues with milk and dairy in general so I try to stay a bit away from it. Tea with milk is a great way to have less tea and that´s not cool.

Modifié par Statulos, 01 mars 2010 - 04:49 .