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[Skynet877]

My best friend just told me not to talk to her right now because she is emotional, and then she removed me from Facebook.  She said that I have caused her to be emotional and that she would talk to me later.  Her and I are very close, in fact, probably too close and we love each other (but it's complicated).  Well she has a boyfriend at the moment, who she shares her Xbox 360 with (and same Xbox Live account).

Well I got on Xbox Live at about noon today and noticed that "she" was on.  We always tell each other we love each other and can tell each other anything, and care about each other.  So I joined the game that "she" was in, well, she didn't have her microphone plugged in, so I thought she just lost it or something.  "She" then sent me a text message saying it was her and asked me to play.  Her and I play Modern Warfare 2 all the time (everyday), and occasionally she doesn't use a microphone, so I didn't think much of it this time.  Well, I called "her" "love" several times which isn't weird since the relationship we have (and her boyfriend doesn't know about, or atleast didn't, but that's okay, since it's nothing bad, he just wouldn't understand).

Later she got on Yahoo! Messenger, and I told her "this sucks that we are on different teams" (since we were on different teams that round).  She then said "what are you talking about?"  And so I said "you know, in the game."  Well she said "I'm not playing any game."  I then said "then who have I been playing with for the past three hours?"  She then replied "Oh, Justin didn't have to work today and he's been playing."  He then went off all mad on her, and flipped out at her because he didn't understand and thought she was cheating on him (which she isn't).

Now, she is mad at me (like I said in the beginning).  It's her boyfriend's fault, he shouldn't have impersonated her, especially not without her permission.  I thought maybe she stayed home from school today because she was sick or something, that's why I didn't think anything of "her" being home, though the thought did cross my mind.  I was so embarrassed when I found out the person I'd been talking to was actually her boyfriend (alongside her boyfriend's uncle), and they were just pretending to be her by turning off the mic and sending text messages saying it was her.  I love this girl, and she trusts me more than her boyfriend, and has professed this to me.  Also, she is the one who told me she loved me first.  She professed her undying love for me about a month ago, and I confessed to my love for her in response.

[KnightofPhoenix]

Ouch.

It is alarming to see men adopting girl tactics (impersonating others) in such issues. And they kept playing for 3 hours? Seirously? I mean if he wanted to be jeaklous, he would have signed off the very moment you said "love".

Although I do not seem to understand this "love" you have with each other, nor is it my business to udnerstand.

But yea, sorry about that mate. Hopefully she will see that it's not your fault. If she trusts you the way you claim she does.

[jimmyjoefro]

Yeah, sounds like her bf is bit of a weirdo. Impersonating someone else is always going to end in tears. But, I wouldn't call someone "love" when I know that they share their account with their bf, regardless of the relationship between us.

[Skynet877]

KnightofPhoenix wrote...

Ouch.
It is alarming to see men adopting girl tactics (impersonating others) in such issues. And they kept playing for 3 hours? Seirously? I mean if he wanted to be jeaklous, he would have signed off the very moment you said "love".
Although I do not seem to understand this "love" you have with each other, nor is it my business to udnerstand.
But yea, sorry about that mate. Hopefully she will see that it's not your fault. If she trusts you the way you claim she does.

Her and I are just friends....VERY close friends, and about a month ago she told me about how she liked me as more than a friend, but didn't think I was interested,

[Gorthaur the Cruel]

If you would indulge me, why exactly are you telling a bunch of strangers? Don't you have anyone who's closer to you than a bunch of strangers to tell?

Modifié par Solostran85, 02 mars 2010 - 11:36 .

[Seagloom]

This sounds like a messy situation all around. She says she loves you but sticks with him... and is now upset because he found out about you and confronted her. I can see why she may be agitated after an argument like that... but maybe this is for the best. If nothing else it may force her to make a choice; assuming this guy doesn't leave her outright after this. It depends on how much he trusts her after calming down, I suppose.

Whatever happens, that was a fairly juvenile thing he did baiting you along that way. It makes me wonder if he already had suspicions something was up between you two and wanted to confirm it. Or maybe he isn't that manipulative and it was a terrible coincidence. Either way, it's better that it's out there in my opinion. I just hope it works out for the best.

Modifié par Seagloom, 02 mars 2010 - 11:38 .

[Skynet877]

Solostran85 wrote...

If you would indulge me, why exactly are you telling a bunch of strangers? Don't you have anyone who's closer to you than a bunch of strangers?

I already asked one of my good friends, he said he didn't know what to do.  Then I was like "where can I ask this anonymously?" Then I remembered the Dragon Age forum that I never went to, and decided to get help here.

[Skynet877]

Skynet877 wrote...

Solostran85 wrote...

If you would indulge me, why exactly are you telling a bunch of strangers? Don't you have anyone who's closer to you than a bunch of strangers?

I already asked one of my good friends, he said he didn't know what to do.  Then I was like "where can I ask this anonymously?" Then I remembered the Dragon Age forum that I never went to, and decided to get help here.

Thanks.  I think he may have been suspicious.

[KnightofPhoenix]

I said it before, I will say it again. Girls are the source of all problems. They are confused themselves and they can never make up their minds, which would be mostly harmless if they didn't also spread this aura of confusion and undesiciveness to everyone else. This makes resorting to stranger opinion sound like a good idea. (That's mostly a joke BTW....mostly).

If I might be so blunt, I think your best friend is mostly to blame for this.

Modifié par KnightofPhoenix, 02 mars 2010 - 11:54 .

[Madame November]

Doesn't your title say she is your lover? That does mean that the boyfriend is kind of right about her cheating.



That said, jealousy is a poison and the situation needed to be resolved anyway. Maybe you both can have her, or maybe he will leave her. Maybe she will decide to be alone for a while to evaluate the importance of honesty and figure out what she really wants. Good Luck.

[Godak]

I think you three need to have a sit down...



If she loves you, then she loves you. If she loves him, she loves him. Somehow, you guys need to sort this out. I hate to say it, but she might only be interested in a "brother/sister" relationship with you.



Also: About the X-Box Live bit. What did the message say? Did it say "Hey, it's me!" or "Hey, it's (the girls name)!"? Maybe he just thought that you two could play together, since you both have a relationship with this chick? If he DID use the girls name, that's just inexcusable.



Either way, you guys just need to talk this over. If either side gets all pissy, and refuses to talk, that'll just make things worse.

[Madame November]

Maviarab wrote...

November....depends on your definition, to me a kiss on the lips would be classed as cheating, its a lack of respect, trust and loyalty in my mind, thus is the same as cheating.

As for her honesty, its obvious she doesnt know what the word means, If i was the op id stay as friends, move on and find a woman who actually does respect him.

And Godak, maybe he used her tag for precisely that reason, to try and catch her out.....

I actually think that cheating could be even less, depending on the parameters of the relationship.

[Skynet877]

Maviarab wrote...

So...because you have not 'done anything' yet, you dont think she has cheated...hmmm....

Typical male perspective....

Sorry to say this dude....but sort it out. And tell her to sort herself out too.....

I only assume your female after reading that (bolded).

[Skynet877]

Godak wrote...

I think you three need to have a sit down...

If she loves you, then she loves you. If she loves him, she loves him. Somehow, you guys need to sort this out. I hate to say it, but she might only be interested in a "brother/sister" relationship with you.

Also: About the X-Box Live bit. What did the message say? Did it say "Hey, it's me!" or "Hey, it's (the girls name)!"? Maybe he just thought that you two could play together, since you both have a relationship with this chick? If he DID use the girls name, that's just inexcusable.

Either way, you guys just need to talk this over. If either side gets all pissy, and refuses to talk, that'll just make things worse.

I said "Jodie is that you on?" and he said "yes"

[Godak]

Skynet877 wrote...

Godak wrote...

I think you three need to have a sit down...

If she loves you, then she loves you. If she loves him, she loves him. Somehow, you guys need to sort this out. I hate to say it, but she might only be interested in a "brother/sister" relationship with you.

Also: About the X-Box Live bit. What did the message say? Did it say "Hey, it's me!" or "Hey, it's (the girls name)!"? Maybe he just thought that you two could play together, since you both have a relationship with this chick? If he DID use the girls name, that's just inexcusable.

Either way, you guys just need to talk this over. If either side gets all pissy, and refuses to talk, that'll just make things worse.

I said "Jodie is that you on?" and he said "yes"

I'm assuming "Jodie" isn't the dude's name!

Alright. You still need to talk to him about WHY he did it. Was it jealousy? Was he just trying to screw with you for a little practical joke?

[Godak]

Maviarab wrote...

Why Godak...both the Op and this Jodie have not been playing fair to this other dude, thye are both as much in the wrong as each other....

The BF we should be feeling sorry for, he's the one who has not actually done anything wrong other than perhaos try to find something out.

Remember, we're only hearing one side of the story. We have no idea how the girl feels about him. It's best for everyone involved to just come together, sit down, and talk it out. Nothing is accomplished by us saying "Yeah! Jodie and her boyfriend are douche-heads!" We are a neutral party. It is our resposibility to take a step back and look at this with the least amount of bias as possible.

[Chaos-fusion]

KnightofPhoenix wrote...

I said it before, I will say it again. Girls are the source of all problems.

Hey, don't lump us all together. I'd not get myself into a situation like this.