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[Dark Lilith]

calling a girl love knowing she has a boyfriend is just asking for trouble.If she's been flirting with you and encouraging you,move on cause if you get her she'll do the same to you.

You set yourself up for a fall and got it!

[Godak]

So, again, be willing to talk it over with them, or admit that you aren't really interested in doing anything but venting on a forum.

[Chaos-fusion]

Maviarab wrote...

lol good to know Chaos

Ack, apologies. I tend to forget my 'just keep quiet' policy when I'm in a bad mood.

[Skynet877]

I just sent her a message on Facebook: "You seem most upset about this, well I am too. Are you going to throw away our friendship that we've had since 7th grade over one small isolated incident?"

[Godak]

Skynet877 wrote...

I just sent her a message on Facebook: "You seem most upset about this, well I am too. Are you going to throw away our friendship that we've had since 7th grade over one small isolated incident?"

Uh...that's not really "talking to her". That's throwing out ultimatums and hoping that she'll choose the option you like.

[Daewan]

So let me get this straight.... you're in love with this girl, but since she was in a relationship she was "safe." Now you accidentally threatened that relationship, and you're terrified of being asked to pick up the slack because it was your fault and you love her.



Man up, dude. Take a stand one way or another. Stop posting on anonymous forums and go talk to her, face to face. You owe her that much, at least.

[Skynet877]

Godak wrote...

Skynet877 wrote...

Godak wrote...

I think you three need to have a sit down...

If she loves you, then she loves you. If she loves him, she loves him. Somehow, you guys need to sort this out. I hate to say it, but she might only be interested in a "brother/sister" relationship with you.

Also: About the X-Box Live bit. What did the message say? Did it say "Hey, it's me!" or "Hey, it's (the girls name)!"? Maybe he just thought that you two could play together, since you both have a relationship with this chick? If he DID use the girls name, that's just inexcusable.

Either way, you guys just need to talk this over. If either side gets all pissy, and refuses to talk, that'll just make things worse.

I said "Jodie is that you on?" and he said "yes"

I'm assuming "Jodie" isn't the dude's name!

Alright. You still need to talk to him about WHY he did it. Was it jealousy? Was he just trying to screw with you for a little practical joke?

If it's a practical joke, I bet he's scarred for life at the reprecussions of said joke, and will never play around with anyone else again, out of fear of discovering more things he doesn't want to know.


p.s.
Did I really say her name in that post?  That was my bad, I was direct quoting and I guess I forgot that I said her name in that quote.

[Baracuda6977]

this is just me, and i can't claim much experience in these situations, but i say disappear into the background, but be 'available' to her, like be on facebook, at ur phone, on skype or messenger, whatever so she can come to you. i wouldn't pressure her personally

if she can't choose, you must have a contest of men with her bf to decide!

[Skynet877]

Daewan wrote...

So let me get this straight.... you're in love with this girl, but since she was in a relationship she was "safe." Now you accidentally threatened that relationship, and you're terrified of being asked to pick up the slack because it was your fault and you love her.

Man up, dude. Take a stand one way or another. Stop posting on anonymous forums and go talk to her, face to face. You owe her that much, at least.

There's a lot more too it than that.

[Statulos]

I´m nobody to judge you but it´s vital, absolutely vital that people are transparent in their relations when there is a significant other.



Calling her "love" may not be a good idea when there is an unknowing significant other because the average person associates that treatment to exactly what her bf has thought.



If there is this great deal of friendship between both of you, you should have started telling the bf what was going arround.



Honesty is always the best policy in terms of friendship and "more than just friendship" relations because if you don´t have sincerity, the rest is worth nothing. You both could have saved a lot of aggravation by marely explaining how things are.

[Baracuda6977]

also, if honesty is not possible for some reason, make sure your lie web is foolproof!

[Statulos]

If honesty is not possible, a romantic relation with a person is directly impossible.

[KnightofPhoenix]

Chaos-fusion wrote...

KnightofPhoenix wrote...

I said it before, I will say it again. Girls are the source of all problems.

Hey, don't lump us all together. I'd not get myself into a situation like this.

That's what they all say. (I was joking BTW )
But I still insist it's msotly the girl's fault.
So she says she loves this guy, but she has another boyfriend at the same time, who shares the same xlive account with her. While knowing that this guy calls her "love" occasionally on xlive. But instead of warning him not to do it, because her bf might be playing, she tells him that she loves him more than just a friend, as I said above. She honestly couldn't see this is a reciepe for disaster?
And then she blames this guy for it?
Meeeh.

Sure, this guy didn't act the way I would have (it would have been ugly). But I don't think the poor guy is to blame. I mean, it's hard to blame someone who belives in "unending" love right?  

[Baracuda6977]

moral of this story... groups of three make for all KINDS of awkward social situations!

[Twitchmonkey]

Dark Lilith wrote...

calling a girl love knowing she has a boyfriend is just asking for trouble.If she's been flirting with you and encouraging you,move on cause if you get her she'll do the same to you.
You set yourself up for a fall and got it!

Aye, carrying on like this is just asking for trouble. Yeah, he went behind her back and impersonated her to see if his suspicions were justified, and it seems like they were. If you're smart, you won't have anything to do with girls that are going to profess their "undying love" to someone else while they'er in a relationship, but something tells me you will anyway, so enjoy your continuing drama.

[Gandalf-the-Fabulous]

Solostran85 wrote...

If you would indulge me, why exactly are you telling a bunch of strangers? Don't you have anyone who's closer to you than a bunch of strangers to tell?

My guess would be that the OP is a Troll as this situation is too ****ed up and weird to be true.

However if what the OP says is true then he must be one very sad individual.

[Gandalf-the-Fabulous]

Skynet877 wrote...

My best friend just told me not to talk to her right now because she is emotional, and then she removed me from Facebook.  She said that I have caused her to be emotional and that she would talk to me later.  Her and I are very close, in fact, probably too close and we love each other (but it's complicated).  Well she has a boyfriend at the moment, who she shares her Xbox 360 with (and same Xbox Live account).

Well I got on Xbox Live at about noon today and noticed that "she" was on.  We always tell each other we love each other and can tell each other anything, and care about each other.  So I joined the game that "she" was in, well, she didn't have her microphone plugged in, so I thought she just lost it or something.  "She" then sent me a text message saying it was her and asked me to play.  Her and I play Modern Warfare 2 all the time (everyday), and occasionally she doesn't use a microphone, so I didn't think much of it this time.  Well, I called "her" "love" several times which isn't weird since the relationship we have (and her boyfriend doesn't know about, or atleast didn't, but that's okay, since it's nothing bad, he just wouldn't understand).

Later she got on Yahoo! Messenger, and I told her "this sucks that we are on different teams" (since we were on different teams that round).  She then said "what are you talking about?"  And so I said "you know, in the game."  Well she said "I'm not playing any game."  I then said "then who have I been playing with for the past three hours?"  She then replied "Oh, Justin didn't have to work today and he's been playing."  He then went off all mad on her, and flipped out at her because he didn't understand and thought she was cheating on him (which she isn't).

Now, she is mad at me (like I said in the beginning).  It's her boyfriend's fault, he shouldn't have impersonated her, especially not without her permission.  I thought maybe she stayed home from school today because she was sick or something, that's why I didn't think anything of "her" being home, though the thought did cross my mind.  I was so embarrassed when I found out the person I'd been talking to was actually her boyfriend (alongside her boyfriend's uncle), and they were just pretending to be her by turning off the mic and sending text messages saying it was her.  I love this girl, and she trusts me more than her boyfriend, and has professed this to me.  Also, she is the one who told me she loved me first.  She professed her undying love for me about a month ago, and I confessed to my love for her in response.

First off let me say that I think you are a troll, this situation is too ****ed up and wrong to be serious and every good troll knows posting phony relationship problems is a good way to troll nerds who think they are experts on the subject dispite never getting to second base.

However if you are serious then this situation is totally ****ed up and you are all a bunch of loonies. Ok first of all how old are all of you? I take it from your post that you and the girl are still in highschool and the BF is a working man with a car.

First of all why is the BF dating a girl still in highschool? Is he so sad that he can not get a woman his own age to date him? There is so many things wrong with this situation that I am not going to go into it, I will only say that the BF sounds like a duche.

Second of all she says she loves you yet she is in a relationship with another guy? She is either playing you for a fool because she loves the attention or using her BF because he has an income and a car, either way she doesnt sound like a very nice girl and sound be dumped on the curb, the BF has the right to be upset (even though he does sound like a pedophile) hell I wouldnt like the woman I am in a relationship with "professing her undying love" for another man and if she did we wouldnt be in a relationship anymore.

Third of all what the hell are you doing getting involved with a girl that is already in a relationship? Getting involved with somebody who is already in a romantic relationship is asking for trouble, in my opinion you are just as bad as the girl.

To sum it all up you are all at fault but most of the blame should fall on you and the girl.

But really this has to be a troll topic but I am surprised at how many people are sympatising with you on this, can they not see that the whole situation is wrong or do they support going after girls who are already in relationships and are cheating on their boyfriends?

Modifié par Gandalf-the-Fabulous, 03 mars 2010 - 08:14 .

[KneeTheCap]

Teenage relationships are always complicated, that's for sure. But seriously....?



Ok, I really hope the thread opener is a troll...If not, then his situation is really fu**ed up. But, he has no-one else to blame than himself. You could try the Godak-way, and try talk about the situation, but I'm sure it ends up as a blood brawl. So, my advice, stay back, let the situation cool down and wait if she contacts you.



Btw, is "facebook messaging or msm stuff" really today's way of communicating? When I was young (as in few hundred years ago), communicating actually ment a face-to-face talking (or a spitting competition, if given enough booze)....

[Gandalf-the-Fabulous]

Seriously if the OP is smart and isnt a troll he should walk away and forget about the girl. Stop trying to pick up chicks who already have boyfriends.



If the boyfriend is smart he should dump that sorry excuse for a girlfriend and try to find a relationship with a woman his own age



And if the girl is smart she should stop whoring herself out to losers and stop fishing for attention from any boy that will give it to her.



Problem solved.

[Skynet877]

Maviarab wrote...

The ultimate moral of the story is...

He will learn when he gets older.

Thank you, sir, thank you.

[Skynet877]

Twitchmonkey wrote...

Dark Lilith wrote...

calling a girl love knowing she has a boyfriend is just asking for trouble.If she's been flirting with you and encouraging you,move on cause if you get her she'll do the same to you.
You set yourself up for a fall and got it!

Aye, carrying on like this is just asking for trouble. Yeah, he went behind her back and impersonated her to see if his suspicions were justified, and it seems like they were. If you're smart, you won't have anything to do with girls that are going to profess their "undying love" to someone else while they'er in a relationship, but something tells me you will anyway, so enjoy your continuing drama.

Yeah, probably.

[Skynet877]

Gandalf-the-Fabulous wrote...

Solostran85 wrote...

If you would indulge me, why exactly are you telling a bunch of strangers? Don't you have anyone who's closer to you than a bunch of strangers to tell?

My guess would be that the OP is a Troll as this situation is too ****ed up and weird to be true.

However if what the OP says is true then he must be one very sad individual.

How about something to throw my spirits?