I'm 17.
She's 16.
Her boyfriend is 19.
I think my best friend and lover may be upset with me...
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#52
Posté 03 mars 2010 - 01:12
Skynet877
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I'm going to try Godak's advice, thanks everyone.
p.s.
She replied to my Facebook message and said that she isn't upset with me, just a little irritated about this whole situation.
p.s.
She replied to my Facebook message and said that she isn't upset with me, just a little irritated about this whole situation.
#53
Posté 03 mars 2010 - 01:28
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You (OP) are an idiot and she needs to chose.
End of story.
End of story.
#54
Posté 03 mars 2010 - 01:44
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Someone is grumpy today. 
@Skynet877 - You two are extremely young... which accounts for most of the shenanigans. Godak's advice is probably the safest route you can take in this, but you better brace yourself for the possibility this will end badly for you. Whatever claims she made about being in love may well be untrue. The majority of 16 year olds and young adults for that matter, mistake infatuation for love, and the fact she's torn between you two doesn't speak well in her favor. As I wrote before, hope it works out for the best... one way or another.
@Skynet877 - You two are extremely young... which accounts for most of the shenanigans. Godak's advice is probably the safest route you can take in this, but you better brace yourself for the possibility this will end badly for you. Whatever claims she made about being in love may well be untrue. The majority of 16 year olds and young adults for that matter, mistake infatuation for love, and the fact she's torn between you two doesn't speak well in her favor. As I wrote before, hope it works out for the best... one way or another.
#55
Posté 03 mars 2010 - 01:55
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Life sucks but you can always go get some waffles
#56
Posté 03 mars 2010 - 05:10
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Haha, the boyfriend is 19 and dating a 16 year old? Wow, yeah, he sounds like a real winner.
#57
Posté 03 mars 2010 - 06:24
Statulos
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We call that "cradle stormer" for his part and "grave desecrator" for hers.
#58
Posté 03 mars 2010 - 06:31
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This is a mess... it's why I tend to steer clear of the whole problem. Dating is dating and a relationship is a relationship and I never have a relationship until I'm certain I like the person. So many people date a few weeks and then decide to start with the whole boyfriend and girlfriend thing... and then you get stick situations like these, where you realize that someone else understands you better than the "bf". Ugh... sort it out, find out where you stand, where she stands... and once she knows what she is going to do... then make your decision.
Still... the whole her boyfriend pretending to be her is one of the oldest tricks in the book. You should've been suspicious from the beginning.
Still... the whole her boyfriend pretending to be her is one of the oldest tricks in the book. You should've been suspicious from the beginning.
#59
Posté 03 mars 2010 - 06:56
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if you haven't done anything, it is not cheating. don't bring emotion into it. he wants suggestions, not emotional reactions to the situation. it's not cheating unless you act on it. if neither one has acted on it it is not cheating. what happens down the road is another story, but as of now it is not cheating unless the op has left something out.Maviarab wrote...
So...because you have not 'done anything' yet, you dont think she has cheated...hmmm....
Typical male perspective....
Sorry to say this dude....but sort it out. And tell her to sort herself out too.....
edit: my opinion on cheating does not necessarily think the op is in the right, just that i do not consider it cheating. the girl is obviously an emotional wreck and has lead both guys astray.
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Posté 03 mars 2010 - 08:58
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Statulos wrote...
We call that "cradle stormer" for his part and "grave desecrator" for hers.
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#61
Posté 03 mars 2010 - 09:33
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why are you prfessing your love to a taken women... you seem to be the problem
#62
Posté 03 mars 2010 - 10:28
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Go out and find a free and nice not spoiled girl for you mate , is best advice i would give you or speak to her and see what your position rly is , if girl is having 2 relationship same time shes playing with both of you and playing with feelings of both which i see it as cruel.
There is only one answer if you want to carry on with this relationship and that is you or him.
There is only one answer if you want to carry on with this relationship and that is you or him.
#63
Posté 06 mars 2010 - 05:38
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Seagloom wrote...
This sounds like a messy situation all around. She says she loves you but sticks with him... and is now upset because he found out about you and confronted her. I can see why she may be agitated after an argument like that... but maybe this is for the best. If nothing else it may force her to make a choice; assuming this guy doesn't leave her outright after this. It depends on how much he trusts her after calming down, I suppose.
That's just what I was thinking. She loves you and trusts you more than her bf, but she's with him. Why, did you tell her you don't feel that way about her? How do you feel about her?
Anyway, none of this was your fault, and she's wrong to be upset with you. One would hope she will come to this conclusion and appologise but if she doesn't what I'd do is just leave it. If I were you I'd be mad at her for blaming me to be perfectly honest. I wouldn't chase after her.
By the way, there's a site called dearcupid.org that you might be interested in.
