It's funny, a lot of people have commented that if you're a Zevran fan, you'll understand why Wynne is so hated... but Zevran is one of my top five favorite DA characters (possibly ranking #1), IS my favorite romance option, and I personally hold no resentment towards Wynne.
I have multiple playthroughs, I have romanced many of the Characters, but the Zevran romance is the only one I've seen from start to finish so far (twice). I think my lack of meta-gaming knowledge may partially be the reason I'm able to see her in a more positive light. The only perspective of Wynne that I know is that of my City Elf (haven't gotten far enough in the other playthroughts).
My City Elf never wanted to leave his family, and hated being cornered between death and--in his mind--slavery to the Grey Wardens. He didn't feel like he was truly being given a choice so much as a leash, and the speech your father gives you at the end of that origin... that he 'dreamed of grandchildren', and that terribly depressed sigh of his... my PC felt as though he'd somehow died upon seeing his father's reaction. His old life was effectively being taken away. Fortunately he's a survivor, so he tried (unsuccessfully) to bury his past and accept his new present.
Then suddenly he's one of the only 2 remaining Grey Wardens in all of Ferelden, and instantly promoted to the position of Grey Warden Commander when he's never before been allowed a station of authority.
I like to think that my PC had good judgment, but he was not beyond listening to the advice of his companions, and that includes Wynne.
I bring this up only to point out that I played a character that was not as secure in his leadership capabilities as he led others to believe. I get the feeling--from reading this thread--that there are many posters here with born leader PCs (which isn't a bad thing, by any means) and I think that's where this divide is drawn.
A born leader PC doesn't need Wynne's advice, nor would they see it as useful or even correct (and as a leader, they could quite possibly be right on all accounts).
A self-conscious PC, with a grudge towards their Grey Warden status, would feel more at loss, and more open to her advice.
I'm not trying to say that there are only 2 ways to play a character. Someone out there has probably played a PC who's an outstanding leader, loved by their entire party, that considers Wynne the sweet grandmother they never had. Likewise, there are also people who have played a Grey Warden unhappy with the duty they've been saddled with, who'd sooner tell Wynne to shove a cork in it than listen to a drip of her advice, not to mention the countless combinations in between.
Some people see Wynne as a self-righteous ninny, my perspective just happened to give me a very different interpretation of Wynne's relationship lecture.
My City Elf completely considered what Wynne had to say (even though at the time he thought his dalliances with Zevran were more 'fun' and 'stress relief' than anything else. He hadn't acknowledged his feelings by that point. Denial is fun). In fact, this conversation is what prompted him to take the relationship more seriously. He was forced to realize that Zevran was not something he wished to give up, and that their relationship meant more to him than he was willing to admit.
If you don't go into that conversation with a, "You have no business getting yourself involved in my personal affairs, I'm wrangling an army on my own, and I can decide for myself what's right!" mindset, you get a totally different perspective on this confrontation.
And in context, regardless as to whether or not 'Wynne was meaner to him than other romance options', Wynne's advice is still sound from an outsider's perspective. Zevran DOES seem to have 'only one thing on his mind', and Wynne DOESN'T know he can be trusted. The fact that Zevran tries to reinforce the other characters' negative perceptions of him doesn't help matters (though it's damn amusing to watch).
Zevran hangs around in camp, but that doesn't mean he's as forthright with your companions as he is with the PC (and considering how much of his life, thoughts and feelings he tries to cover up even when addressing the PC, that's saying a lot). I always felt that the conversations he shared with the PC were by and large personal, things he'd prefer not to let the others know or see.
Zevran and the PC form a kinship (they're both products of struggle and excellence) that he can't, or won't, with the others (he even hesitates in acknowledging that he and Leliana are similar, so this is not insignificant).
Thus, the PC is the only one truly presented with an opportunity to get to know and trust him, if they actively try to learn more about him, of course. Not all of the party members are going to show the same initiative. Some do, but not all, and the last time Wynne inquired, one of the funniest conversations I've ever had the pleasure of hearing occurred. xD So I don't much fault her for knowing/understanding so little about Zevran's character.
And say 'Wynne struck first' all you like, in means very little to me. Someone can call me a big, smelly doo-doo head, but that doesn't mean I'm going to turn around and chuck a rock at their head. XP
People also seem to dislike Wynne because of something she says in the fade. "We found each other in this place." Some people translate this line as her taking all the credit for the Warden's efforts. Once again, I'm of a different perspective.
In regards to her statement, I remember the line, "What once was lost, has now been found." Yes, the Grey Warden does all the dirty work... does that mean Wynne wasn't found? That you didn't find your lost party members and bring them all together?
That you didn't find each other in the Fade?
Perhaps it would have been preferred if she'd said, "The Grey Warden found us in this place!" but that really doesn't have the same impact... of union, of presenting a strong front against an enemy who is in his element. I've always liked having a sense of comradery in my games, so Wynne's way of phrasing this scenario truly doesn't bother me.
To me, the fact that she says 'we' is significant. She's saying that despite the demon's efforts to separate you, you were brought back together.
Obviously the line can be interpreted differently, but it's hardly evidence that Wynne is a bag and credit thief. xD Good reason to dislike her though? Of course!
So is her ****-blocking.

Once again, it's a video game, and people's perceptions of the characters are entirely based upon their player experience. Personally, I think it's a bit useless to get worked up over why so-and-so hates this character, but loves that one, and so on and so on... Because in a game like Dragon Age where you're able to get behind your own character and truly play someone with thoughts and emotions and personality, amidst such brilliant party members, you're going to find people you hate in your immersion.
Nobody is wrong to dislike a character, nobody is wrong to like a character. I think what matters most is YOUR experiance, and how you felt coming out of it. You shouldn't allow someone else's experience to ruin it for you.
On the otherhand, if you ask someone what they dislike about a character, you really shouldn't be all that surprised when they give you an answer.

My two cents. xD *bowing out now*
Modifié par MorningBird, 05 mars 2010 - 11:12 .