SurelyForth wrote...
He doesn't know that Loghain tried to keep Cailan off of the front lines. All he knows is that the beacon was lit and then Loghain left. And then accused the Wardens of killing Cailan. And then sent assassins after him and his friends. And was responsible for poisoning his (other) father figure. I think he has every reason to hate Loghain and his wrath could be much greater and much more debilitating- at least he carries on with the task at hand and settles his issues in an appropriate venue rather than doing something illegal or underhanded (like hiring assassins or poisoning someone via blood mage).
I'm talking about before Lothering, when you're at Flemeth's. At that point you don't know about the Wardens being declared traitors, the assassins (well, one assassin - Zevran - the guys you meet in Lothering are there to arrest the Warden, not kill him/her) and the poisoning. I'm not saying those aren't bad things, but at that point in the game, you're not aware of them.
And the Warden saw Loghain trying to keep Cailan off the front lines. It's not so much Alistair's dialogue that gets me miffed at this point (irritating though it is) but the fact you can't actually say "hey, wait a minute, I was there when he told Cailan to stay back," nor can you question why he immediately jumps to the conclusion that Fereldan's most renowned war hero is a traitor. You can brush over the statement or agree with it. And that's just stupid.
SurelyForth wrote...
I have been white knighting Alistair all over the place today, but I will admit that there are things about his character that irk me (and I really hate the Alistair you can get if you spare Loghain and marry him to Anora, even though I am keenly aware of how badly betrayed he feels by the PC) but I think he's a victim of his role in the plot taking over consistent characterization. The first time I played I thought he was an adorable goofball, but way too immature. Now that I've played so much, I know that you can end up with a very well-balanced adult at the end of the game, one who stops underestimating himself (even though he continues to let others underestimate him). I love that Alistair.
I've only really had annoying endings with Alistair. I didn't harden him in my first playthrough - I wasn't aware that you could, and just went with the sympathetic approach when he visited Goldanna. My own character executed Loghain and I had Alistair marry Anora. It ended fine, but he was still a bit of a wimp.
The execution cut scene bothered me so much I recruited Loghain in most of my other playthroughs so only saw Alistair's petulant side (for all that he might feel betrayed by you, he acts like a complete ass, turning his back on the Wardens completely).
I did want to take Alistair through one more complete playthrough in a romance but that one backfired pretty spectacularly too. My plan was to have Alistair kill Loghain himself (so I didn't have to), then my character would back Anora so that Alistair and she could remain Wardens together. Well, that didn't work - he killed Loghain then declared himself king, after which he dumped my girl in front of the entire party, and then told her it was her idea to make him king. Er, no it wasn't, ****-head. I was actually glad when he insisted on sacrificing himself. I know I should have felt moved and sad, but I was so annoyed with him I thought good riddance. I don't think I've really forgiven him for that.

I do wish it was possible to recruit Loghain as a non-Warden (just as a general/soldier) and keep Alistair as a Warden, but no. Damn you, game mechanics.