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[Skynet877]

I care about this girl and she said a week ago that she would tell me if she'll start a relationship with me.  She says she loves me but doesn't know what to do.  Last Sunday she said she would tell me on last Monday, but she never did.  She still says she is thinking though!  I'm pissed and upset and I don't want anything to do with her if she keeps this up.  I'm thinking about telling her to make up her mind or I'm gone.  She clearly doesn't truly love me if she is going to take two weeks (or more) to even give me an answer, after saying she would a week ago.

[Seagloom]

Maybe she's afraid of what her parents or friends will think? It does sound like you answered your own question. From your post it doesn't sound like you believe her words are all that genuine.

Modifié par Seagloom, 19 mars 2010 - 12:27 .

[Godak]

Skynet, you really need to take a step back and look at how often you get into these asinine situations...



Anyway, she may feel that she is being pressured into a relationship that she isn't ready for.

[Skynet877]

randumb vanguard wrote...

let's break down the problem to the basics...
next time she says it:
1) tell her you are tired of "her dissenguos assertions" and punch her in the face .
2) tell her answer me or we are done.
3) wait
Those are your only options.
the first one is probably a bad idea
if you don't want to leave her don't do the second one
that leaves you with number 3

and you said if she really loved you she wouldn't wait that long. thats un-true
more specific advice ignore the question altogether ENJOY THE MOMENT and don't focus on the bad (her not answering you) this problem seems like it can just fix itself with time...

I just sent her a message on Facebook asking her why she hasn't made up her mind.  I did not put an ultimatum in there though, just asked her, that is all.

[Giant ambush beetle]

Tell her that you cannot wait any longer and you want an decision NOW. If she really loves you she won't say ''don't rush me, screw you''. If you already waited a week or longer, nothing will happen in the next weeks. It does not take weeks to know if you love somebody or not, some days maybe, but weeks? Nah...

And WTF facebook? Call her or better, visit her! 

Modifié par The Woldan , 19 mars 2010 - 12:33 .

[Godak]

The Woldan wrote...

Tell her that you cannot wait any longer and you want an decision NOW. If she really loves you she won't say ''don't rush me, screw you''. If you already waited a week or longer, nothing will happen in the next weeks. It does not take weeks to know if you love somebody or not, some days maybe, but weeks? Nah...

Just to fill you in...Skynet is a teenager, and this kind of thing has happened before. "Love" for him is more like "do you think I look good in a bathing suit?".

[Skynet877]

Godak wrote...

The Woldan wrote...

Tell her that you cannot wait any longer and you want an decision NOW. If she really loves you she won't say ''don't rush me, screw you''. If you already waited a week or longer, nothing will happen in the next weeks. It does not take weeks to know if you love somebody or not, some days maybe, but weeks? Nah...

Just to fill you in...Skynet is a teenager, and this kind of thing has happened before. "Love" for him is more like "do you think I look good in a bathing suit?".

You don't even know me, kid.

[Skynet877]

Godak wrote...

Skynet, you really need to take a step back and look at how often you get into these asinine situations...

Anyway, she may feel that she is being pressured into a relationship that she isn't ready for.

And no Godak, I do NOT think YOU look good in a bathing suit.

[Giant ambush beetle]

Keep flaming at bay, ok? We are trying to help you after all.

[Godak]

Celrath wrote...

 Stand out side of her window with a boombox playing this  song loud as possible , and a few tears wouldn't hurt. 

If you could play and sing it yourself it would be better

This is an acceptable substitute.

[Giant ambush beetle]

randumb vanguard wrote...

The Woldan wrote...

Tell her that you cannot wait any longer and you want an decision NOW. If she really loves you she won't say ''don't rush me, screw you''. If you already waited a week or longer, nothing will happen in the next weeks. It does not take weeks to know if you love somebody or not, some days maybe, but weeks? Nah...

And WTF facebook? Call her or better, visit her! 

your decision sounds rude...

Did you miss something? I think the GIRL is rude and heartless. I just think putting some pressure on her wouldn't hurt to finally get a decision. 

[Skynet877]

randumb vanguard wrote...

Celrath wrote...

 Stand out side of her window with a boombox playing this  song loud as possible  ,and a few tears wouldn't hurt. 

If you could play and sing it your self it would be better

no blast the song in my sig it will make you seem a lot more impressive

A pretty good song.  However, might I recommend for you, the 2003 film, Master and Commander: The Far Side of the World.

[Godak]

Luc0s wrote...

So yeah, if I where you I would say to her: "Hey, if you ever make up your mind, you know where to find me. Till then, goodbye..."

Might be hard for you, but it's the best thing you can do, really.

That's EXACTLY what he needs to do. If he keeps bugging her, she feels pressured, and he comes off a little douche-y. Saying "let's just spend some time apart until you make a decision" is totally the way to go.